Tips for Caregivers

1. Planning

Start the conversation early and keep the conversation going. Talking about aging, disability and death is uncomfortable – which is why so many people avoid the topic. But it’s important for families to discuss requirements, desires and capabilities – of both potential caregivers and the people who might require care – in advance of the need. Be respectful of everyone’s feelings; these aren’t easy conversations to have.
Create a plan. Discuss the alternatives for care if your loved one(s) can’t take care of themselves on their own. Put the necessary arrangements in place, as much as you can in advance, for things like power of attorney for care, power of attorney for finances, etc.

2. Finances

Clarify costs and roles. Financial planning is vital. Have an open discussion about available resources, and who will pay for what. Beyond the primary caregiver, establish what other family members are prepared to contribute, either in costs or in time.
Explore available assistance. Do your homework to see what kind of health care coverage, government benefits, private insurance, or other community support is available to help relieve some of the financial burden.

3. Abilities

Educate yourself. Do research into your family member’s care needs, and how to be the most effective caregiver and advocate. Organizations that are active in your loved one’s particular condition, family doctors, local health units, and seniors’ groups can all help give you an accurate view of your loved one’s current condition, as well as what to expect in the future.
Be realistic. Understand the time and efforts that you can devote, and make that clear to other family members and any health professionals involved.
Enlist other resources. Augmenting what you can do, consider what other assistance you might need to ensure effective care, such as community resources, adult day care centres, home health care, respite care, home delivered meals, transportation, etc.

4. Avoiding burnout

Take care of yourself. It’s impossible for you to provide the best care to someone else if you’re not taking care of yourself first. Get proper nutrition, enough sleep, regular exercise, time away from the home and enough time off for fun so that you can be at your best.
Watch for warning signs. Caregivers can be at increased risk for anxiety, depression, and health issues of their own. If you notice signs like problems sleeping, changes in appetite, loss of energy, chronic fatigue, or a loss of interest in activities you enjoy, talk to your doctor.
Share your feelings. Caregiving can trigger feelings ranging from guilt to helplessness to fear. For your own well-being, confront your emotions, and talk about them with friends, family or caregiver support groups.
Get help. Don’t be afraid to ask other family and friends to pitch in, not necessarily with care, but with other errands or cooking, so that you are not overloaded.